Selfishness

Being selfish is generally regarded as a bad thing. The thing is our well being depends on each of us looking out for ourselves to some degree. The difficult thing is maintaining the balance of selfishness and selflessness. In relationships this can be a tricky thing especially early on. Some people have the gift of being very giving to people they barely know. Others remain guarded until they have ample reassurances that allow them to trust. Sometimes this is based on one's prior experiences. Like anything else in life, one must decide for themselves which kind of person they want to be and learn to deal with others who have different perspectives.